Not coping with the recent death of my wonderful husband

  • Posts: 1
    27/06/2018  16:47

    I am feeling so utterly lost and hopeless. I lost my wonderful husband and soulmate a week before our 32nd wedding anniversary, and three weeks before his birthday. He was diagnosed with metatastic renal cell carcinoma in mid February this year, and he died just two months later on 26th April. The disease progressed at a frightening rate and my lovely sporty, handsome husband lost three stones on weight and turned into a frail,old man before our eyes. I have a wonderful supportive family so I am luckier than some people, but despite all they do for me, I feel so alone and lonely. My life seems like a foreign country and each day seems so long. Some days I cannot stop crying and I am thinking that everyone will get tired of these upsets. I know it’s early days, but I feel so out of control.

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    28/06/2018  14:22

    Hello Polpatt


    I’m so sorry to read about the loss of your husband, your soulmate, and to hear how lost you are feeling.


    With everything that you have gone through so recently, it’s understandable that you have been finding things difficult and feeling out of control.


    Losing a loved one can evoke a range of powerful emotions. Often people tell us that they feel a sense of unreality along with feelings of intense sadness, and tears. You may find it helpful to look at our information about grieving in your own way here: . It’s important to know that whilst everyone grieves differently, you don’t have to go through bereavement alone.


    Many find that talking can be a helpful and comforting experience. Whilst it’s good to hear that you have a wonderful, supportive family, some people also choose to reach out and talk about how they are feeling with someone outside of their family or friends. Sometimes this can make it easier to be open without worrying about the impact this may have. Many people choose to do this with a Support Line, such as ourselves. If you feel that you would be comfortable reaching out to us yourself, then please do so by calling us on Freephone 0800 090 2309.


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