MY PARTNER'S DEATH

subaru016 6 years ago

12 replies

My partner died from lung, kidney & brain cancer on the 1st July 2018 & this is my first attempt at reaching out to someone as I am not feeling that I am coping very well. I was with him in hospital for 8 or 10 hours every day before he died & I was there at the end with my step daughter.

I had never even seen anyone die before even though I am 67, but I am struggling with memories before his hospital stay & the end.

If I talk to anyone I start to cry (I am crying now) and i feel already that I am becoming a bore to my 2 step daughters & my friends I used to work with.

I am not expecting any answers from anyone out there but the pain is so bad......................I could talk for days!!

Support 6 years ago

Hi Subaru016,

Thank you for reaching out to us and I am hoping that other members of the community will be able to offer support and share their experiences with you.

You loss is very recent and grief is a very personal journey, but it is very normal to feel like you are not coping and to be tearful.  People often tell us that talking is very therapeutic, but many share the same concerns as yourself about friends and family. This is when the Support Line may be able to help you, we are here to offer emotional support and listening ear if you would like to talk to us. 

Take care, Brigette 

Brigette 6 years ago

Hi Subaru016,

I just wanted to say hello and see how you are doing? Please remember if you want to chat we are here to listen. 

Best Wishes.

Brigette 

subaru016 6 years ago

Thank you Brigette as I thought no one would get back to me. I am trying to get on with my life but I will use the helpline now when I need to. Just been talking to a neighbour & that helped a bit, whilst walking the dog.

Brigette 6 years ago

Subaru016,  we are actively trying to find new ways to make this as much of a social space as it can be. If you have any ideas on how we could do this do feel free to share them with us. I am glad that you feel you would be able to contact us at the Support Line if you need to talk. Dogs can be a great source of comfort and motivation to get out and about. I often find dog walking a social activity because dogs never just pass one and another,and this can lead to conversations between the owners! What sort of dog do you have?   

Brigette 

subaru016 6 years ago

A Poodle called Tetley Teabags but we don't have him poodle cut. He was very close to my partner rather than me but we are adjusting together.