Thank you for reaching out and joining our online community. We’re sorry to read about the recent death of your husband and how this is affecting you. It’s understandable that you’re missing him so much, especially after spending 30 years together.
Many people tell us that talking about how they’re feeling can be helpful, are you getting any support at the moment? Please may I ask, have you discussed how you’re feeling with your GP or any other professionals? Healthcare professionals can talk to you about what support services may be available in your local area. We also feature some information on our website about getting support that you may find helpful to take a look at here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/grief-support .
You mentioned in your post that people are saying you have to begin a new life. We just want to reassure you that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It’s important that you do what you feel is right for you. Be kind to yourself as grief is a natural response to losing someone you care about. We feature some information on our website about looking after yourself that you may find helpful to take a look at if you wish to do so here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/looking-after-yourself .
You are welcome to speak to us here on the Support Line as little or as often as you like. While we’re not trained counsellors, we can offer emotional support and a listening ear. If you would like to continue to talk about how you’re feeling you can respond here on the community or you can contact us on Freephone 0800 090 2309 or via our webchat function here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/marie-curie-support-line/using-online-chat .
We would also like to thank you for taking the time to share such kind words with Subaru016. Hopefully others here on the community will share with you what has helped them after the loss of a loved one.
Bonnie - Support Line Team.