mikescfc49 4 years ago
Hi All, I've debated internally whether to write on this page but I am having a tough time dealing with my Dads passing, made slightly worse by the speed of his death and the fact that the day after Dads funeral ( last Tuesday ) my partner of nearly a year decided that she had enjoyed the time spent alone whilst I was in Kent at Dads funeral and she left me too.
Dad was 84 ( just turned on 25th Dec ) at his passing and had really never been poorly and always active, and a huge social calendar, then on the 1st Tuesday of Feb he was rushed into Hospital and was taken to ICU, I live 200 + miles away from Kent in West Yorkshire but was asked not to drive down as Mum didnt want the whole family to descend on the hospital at that time, the following day I received a call from my younger brother to tell me Dad had gone down for a second CT scan and had been having seizures most of the night, but apart from that there was no change, he said he would call again when he knew more.
Not half an hour had passed ( lunchtime ) when he called me again, Dads second CT scan had showed that he had suffered a massive stroke & 75% of his brain was dead, the hospital would be turning off his life support machine later that day, my only words were " I'm on my way", Needless to say I did not make it and Dad passed at 5.15pm.
So my query if there is one, is how does one cope with such a loss that happened so very very quickly and no one saw coming ?