Partner of 10 years died 8 weeks ago

Shazza18 5 years ago

6 replies

My lovely partner died 8 weeks ago and I'm struggling to cope without her, I can't believe it, les was my world, my life, and now my life as gone, I can't wait to be with her, the pain is so unbearable without her,

Samantha 5 years ago

Hello Shazza18,

We’re sorry to read about the recent loss of your partner Les, and to hear how you’re feeling.

You mention in your post that your life has now gone and that you can’t wait to be with Les, are you worried that you are experiencing suicidal feelings? Grief can be very complex and produce with it powerful emotions however it’s important that if you’re feeling suicidal to reach out and access support from those who can help support you.

We’re aware that Mind have information and fact sheets on their website about suicidal thoughts and feelings, which you may find of interest here: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/suicidal-feelings/#.XNKikBRKhpg .

Many people tell us that talking about how they’re feeling can be a helpful experience, what type of support are you getting at present? Have you discussed how you’re feeling with your GP or any other professional?

We hope that others on this community will be able to share their experiences around grief and offer support to you too .

Take care,

Sam – Support Line Officer

Shazza18 5 years ago

I've always been suicidal since she died, doctors just keep giving me tablets, to help with the grief, the doctor say u don't want to die how do they know how I feel about losing her,

Samantha 5 years ago

Hi Shazza18,

Thank you for coming back to us so quickly, we’re sorry to read about the impact the loss of your partner has had on how you’re feeling.

Here at Marie Curie, unfortunately we’re not specialists when it comes to suicidal thoughts or feelings but we would like to provide you with information around how to get help in an emergency and detail support organisations and professionals that you may find it appropriate to talk to.

If you don't feel you can keep yourself safe right now, seek immediate help. You can:

• Go to any hospital A&E department (sometimes known as the emergency department)
• Call 999 and ask for an ambulance if you can't get to A&E
• Ask someone else to contact 999 for you or take you to A&E immediately

If you need some support right now, but don't want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:

• Contact the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, they're open 24 hours and are there to listen
• Contact your GP for an emergency appointment or the out of hours team
• Call NHS 111 (England) or NHS Direct 0845 46 47 (Wales)
• Contact your local crisis team

Shazza18 5 years ago

Im always ringing samaratins, sane line, macmillan

Shazza18 5 years ago

The gp has given me some new tablets to take even though I still have suicidal thoughts