loss of my wife

shasbo 9 years ago

8 replies

hi not to sure if i am doing the right thing or not but time will tell i have lost my wife to cancer recently and finding it very difficult to come to terms with i was very close to my wife and can t find the answsers i need

Support 9 years ago

Hi Shasbo,

I 'm so very sorry to hear that your wife has died. Grieving is painful and this can be especially so when the loss is recent. It is also something we all experience differently so it is important to let yourself mourn as much and as long as is right for you. From talking to others who have been bereaved we have found that there are common emotions and thoughts people go through such as those you have expressed. Talking about how you are feeling can be very helpful and we are here for you in the Marie Curie community. If you feel it would help you to talk please also contact us on our support line – 0800 090 2309.

shasbo 9 years ago

Hi Brigette

                Thank you for your reply i seem to find more comfort in writing although i am not very good every morning i get up i wright down my feelings in a book i am not really very good at talking to some one only my wife was able to bring that out in me but thank you anyway mybe at a later date things will change    

                                            shasbo

Jane 9 years ago

Shasbo, please do carry on writing here on the community if you want to - it can help a little bit to get your feelings out, and there are other people here on the community who are going through or have been through the same kind of thing.  M aybe the information on our website for bereaved people might help too:  https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief     Jane

shasbo 9 years ago

Hi Jane

          Thank you for takeing the time to reply i have family all around me and thay are all very helpful in lots of ways but i feel sometimes i need to talk to some one else / today after visiting my wifes grave i just needed someone to talk to for a short time and found myself driveing around in circules /as you can see my spelling is not very good and i can t find the spell check one of the things i took for granted for my wife to do for me / even for someone to lisson for a short time is all it takes thanks 

                             shasbo

amber 9 years ago

Hello shasbo so so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband four weeks ago. It hurts so much. Having a wonderful family to lean on helps. But sometimes probably like you sharing your feelings with them is so hard so I too have been trying to find help. I am going to give it a try on this community and maybe we can all help each other. Are you taking one day at a time hope that doesn't sound patronizing . Because looking too far ahead scares me. I have decided to set myself goals just little ones each day. Probably sounds a bit daft but it makes me feel I have achieved something