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Shopgirl23 7 years ago

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I'm new to the forum but not to my situation. My Dad is at EOL maybe 6 months to go. I'm caring for him at home were he lives with mum. The last few days have been heartbreaking, dad is so so sad, feels ill most days and keeps asking me when will it all be over. He's so ready to go but his body isent, it's awful to watch and I feel useless cos the one thing he wonts from me I can't give him.

Support 7 years ago

Hi Shopgirl23,

I’m sorry to hear about what you and your parents are going through.  Seeing a loved one deteriorate and knowing that you cannot alter things can be understandably distressing. You may find our pages on being a carer helpful https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/being-there

Talking about how you are feeling can be an important part of looking after yourself.  If you would like to talk about things in more detail please call our Free phone Support Line on 0800 090 2309, or drop us a line via Web Chat:

https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help

Best Wishes

Clare  (Marie Curie Support Line)

Thirdchild 7 years ago

Shopgirl23, I am new to this forum today and your message struck a chord with me.  My dad is so ready to go and doesn't want to put us all through this experience but his body is just not helping him.  I've seen such a fast deterioration since he decided he didn't want to fight anymore, so maybe the mind is stronger than the body? I wish I knew how long and how much more he needs to go through before the end, it is just so hard to watch.  I wish you lots of strength and peace for your father.

Shopgirl23 7 years ago

Things all happened so fast after I posted, Dad decided he was indeed ready and past away peacefully at home in the early hours of Monday morning, 02/10. I can honestly say it was almost beautiful. I was with him settleling him down, I kissed his forehead as usual and stroked his hair to relax him, and he was gone. A perfect end to a life well lived. Thank you all for your replies, MC u have held my hand through this for the last three years, I will be eternally greatful that because of u dad was able to be at home were he wonted to be with me and mum.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️