My dad has T4N2C1 lung cancer

KirstyT 1 day ago

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Edited by KirstyT 1 day ago

My dad who is 75 has been told he has stage4 lung cancer that has spread to his other lung and lymph nodes, incurable as they say. We are waiting on his appointment with his oncologist to see which treatment he can have, in himself he is fit and well but has started with a cough in the last week or so, I was talking to his care nurse today who said she would say he has only 6months to live and with treatment 12months. Obviously, this is not what we wanted to hear as I've been reading more posative stories of how the treatments can contain/shrink people's tumors, and they live years some as long as 7. My dad's tumor is 9cm which is obviously large but I was hoping someone else has a similar diagnosis and can give me some hope that this can go past 6months. Thank you to anyone who could shed some light on to this dark time.

Daffodil 7 hours ago

Edited by Daffodil 7 hours ago

We are so sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis of stage 4 lung cancer, Kirsty. I am answering you as a Marie Curie volunteer, but also as someone who has experienced something very similar a couple of years ago. Receiving a diagnosis and trying to figure out what to do next can be overwhelming. Personally, I was not braced for the uncertainties that came with my father's diagnosis, and I, too, turned to Marie Curie for support.

One good place to get information is the Marie Curie website, which you may have seen already (https://www.mariecurie.org.u k/)? I also found the Support Line a very good place to turn to, whether to ask for information or to have a safe space to talk about everything that was going on. The Marie Curie Support Line is available from 8am to 6pm Monday through Friday and 10am to 4pm at weekends. The phone number is 0800 090 2309, and there are also other options including the online chat and email (for details see https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/services/support-line). Of course, please feel free to write again here, too, and I hope that others will feel comfortable to share their experiences.

Take good care,

💛 Anke, a Member of the Marie Curie Online Community Team