i am new to this forum
my 81 year old mum was recently admitted to hospital with a spiral fracture of her left thigh(Femur)I have now been advised that this was due to cancer in the thigh a metastases from a primary in her lung. Mum,was advised 18 months ago of the possibility of lung cancer but declined further diagnostics and treatment at that time with out advising the family. My mum is in denial about her lung cancer and it is really difficult for my brothers and I to plan her care as she is insistent that she will be returning home and be as she was before her thigh fracture, we are all worried about her safety and how she will cope as she is also cares/looks after my 88 year old father, who has limited mobility a cardiac stent/pacemaker and indwelling urinary catheter. as a family we are all struggling to come to terms with the cancer diagnosis and i am really angry with her for making this decision, I am also feeling guilty for being angry at her.
the hospital communication ref discharge planning is really poor and i dont know what to ask/expect at a case conference planned for next week. can anyone advise if we will have access to any other options than to let her return home until she starts to deteriorate? as mum has refused any diagnostics we dont know the type of cancer or how it is going to progress/effect her so we are struggling as a family to plan to make sue she stays safe
thanks in advance for any information