Overwhelmed by grief

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    Edited by: admin - 20/01/2016 15:34

    How does one deal with the death of one's son, when one has had no time to absorb the fact that he cancer? My son was diagnosed on October 22nd, 2012. Hodgkin's Lymphoma. He died suddenly, of a massive pulmonary embolism, on 22nd November.

    I simply find the grief overwhelming. My husband can't discuss it. He finds my grief too overpowering. Our younger son has never spoken about his brother since that day. I'm disabled, of limited mobility; I can't walk to my son's crematory plot in the local cemetery. Nor can I travel to grief counselling groups. All too far away - and we have no local bus service after 6p.m.

    I'm alone with my grief. I need to speak of it, but my husband won't listen. I'm so low that I don't know what to do.

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    20/01/2016  12:43

    Hi Meggi56,

    I am so sorry about the loss of your son.  I want to reassure that it is completely normal to feel overwhelmed by grief and also that it is not unusual for each member of the family to work through the process in their own way and in different stages. This does not of course make it easier to deal with. We have lots of information on coping with grief on our website which you can find here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief.   Please don’t feel that you have to struggle alone.  If you would like to talk about how you are feeling then do call the support line ( T: 0800 090 2309). We are able to provide you with a listening ear and to support you through this difficult time. Take Care, Brigette.

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    21/01/2016  16:27

    I am just bewildered by my grief. And I can't talk to anyone about it.

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    28/01/2016  21:42

    Meggie56, this must be a very difficult time for you don't dispair, your husband is probably just to over whelmed with shock and they shut every one out, give him time to heal then I am sure he will give you the moral support you need. In the mean time I send you my love and support for I walk in the footsteps of your beloved son I was diagnosed with terminal cancer on 11/12/2015.

    Take care Caza Xx