Hello

Susanb 9 years ago

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Edited by Susanb 9 years ago

Hello

Not sure is I am in the right place but need some sort of help

23.11.2014 I lost my Mum to acute myeloid leukaemia it all happened so fast we barely had time to think. She had a stroke at the end of August and was diagnosed in October. She was very ill and hallucinating with a water infection. It was hard to take in and hard to know what to do for the best within 6 weeks she was gone. I thought I was coping supporting others and settling my disabled Dad into a bungalow. But now I feel I cant cope anymore and I seem to be ill a lot of the time which I think is my way of running away. I constantly query if I could of done more for Mum if her care could of been better I know I cant change anything but that doesn't stop that little voice, hearing her scream as they tried to make her more comfortable. Her last weeks were in a care home close to my Dad so he could see her everyday. The only cause for complaint was when they used agency staff who were less caring and understanding. I miss my Mum,my friend who do I turn to now she was always there for me

Susanb

Support 9 years ago

Hello Susanb,

I am sorry to read of the loss of your mum. Sudden bereavement can be hard to deal with especially at this time of year. It is important to know that everybody experiences grief in different ways and sometimes this can be in the form of physical symptoms. You say you have been busy supporting others, is there anybody that can offer you support? It is important to take time to look after yourself and to talk about how you are feeling. You can find lots of information on coping with grief at our website: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief and if you would like to talk about how you are feeling then please give us a call on the support line T: 0800 090 2309.

Susanb 9 years ago

Hi 

Thank you for your reply.  My daughter tries to offer support but she has 2 young children and needs a lot of support herself. However she suggests I see a councillor the one her friend sees is very good so she is going to find details for me. Had the doctor out today I have a chest infection and he has given me an antidepressant for now see if it helps.

Thank you I may ring the support line in the new year

Susanb