It’s heart-warming to read how you are trying to support your
best friend and her mother. With the arguments that you mention it sounds like
they have been having an especially tough time.
Looking at ways to make your best friends mums room homely is
a lovely idea. When someone is spending a lot or all of their time in bed this
can make a real difference to them. Having family photos and things such as
favourite ornaments moved to the room she is now spending her time in may help
this. Some people may enjoy listening to music or having a favourite TV
programme on. The lighting in the room can really affect how it feels,
something like a bedside side lamp that can be dimmed would give a soothing
light when she is resting. Do you feel that your friend would be ok with you
making suggestions like this? If so we have a page on a website about making a
room a comfortable space that could be helpful - www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/being-there/caring/comfortable-bed
Do you know if district nurses are visiting your friends
mother? If so they may be able to advise and make suitable suggestions about
things she may be able to still do and enjoy whether in her home or outdoors.
Hopefully others here on the community will be able to share
their own ideas with you as well. For those reading this, please feel free to
join in the conversation with any suggestions.
Clare – Marie Curie Support Line