Samantha
4 years ago
Edited by Samantha 4 years ago
Hi Carol
Thank you for reaching
out to me. Sadly, people often tell me that they feel alone and lonely after
the loss of a loved one. The first thing that I would suggest is to be kind to
yourself. It sounds as though you are doing your best to get out there which is
brilliant and you should be very proud of yourself (I know even the smallest
things can be difficult during this time, let alone if you are normally a shy
person). The one thing I would say is to please do things when you feel you
want to, not because you think you must. Everyone experiences grief differently
and it can take time to adjust after the loss of someone close, so the
important thing is to let yourself grieve for your husband as much and as long
as you need to – allow yourself to take ‘baby steps’ as they say.
I often hear that
talking can be helpful during bereavement when you are feeling lonely. Some
people choose to do this with people they are close to or familiar with, where
as others prefer to talk to someone that they don’t know such as ourselves at
the Support Line. We are here to offer a listening ear to anyone that needs to
talk and if you feel this would be helpful then please call us on Freephone 0800 090
2309, or you can always chat to us through this forum if this is better for you
(it really can be about anything and everything and you may find that others
will offer their support or join in with the conversation on this community too).
You may or may not be
aware of a charity called Cruse who may offer bereavement support groups locally
where you can talk to others that may be feeling similarly to yourself. I hear
that this can be a really good way to get support from people who may be able
to relate with what you’re going through. If th is is of interest to you, you
can read more about these groups on their website here: https://www.cruse.org.uk/group-support .
For me to share with you
with the most appropriate information and signposting with you Carol, it would
really help for me to know your age if your happy to share this with me? Please
feel free to
send me a private
message if you’re not comfortable to put it on our forum.
I look forward to
hearing back from you,
Sam