Hi Keith, Firstly I want to say I am so sorry for the loss of your wife, she sounds like such a special person, with the love and pain you are feeling. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through, losing a life partner. Please remember you are so early in your grief and you may be feeling angry and confused. I want you to know that you are not alone Keith, we are here to support you. Grief can be very isolating, as only you know what you are going through and what your precious relationship was. We are here to listen and to talk about you and your wife. We offer a support service over the phone and we also offer an over the phone bereavement service too. A safe space to talk about how you are feeling each week and to tell us more about your wife as a person. If you would like any more information about these, we can help. You are doing amazing Keith, please remember that. Lauren
I am not doing fine when i sleep i don.t want to wake up
We hear you Keith, and many people share thoughts like this.
We have asked you several times if you have any active thoughts of harming yourself? And we really would like you to answer this question, just so we all know where things are at for you.
If you do then Please reach out as below:
If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please know it is ok to seek immediate help. If youâre in the UK, you can do this by:
⢠going to any hospital A&E department (sometimes known as the emergency department)
⢠call 999 and ask for an ambulance if you canât get to A&E
⢠ask someone else to contact 999 for you or take you to A&E immediately
If you need some support right now, but donât want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:
⢠contact the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, theyâre open 24 hours and are there to listen
⢠contact your GP for an emergency appointment or the out of hours team
nobody knows how i feel after 50years together i do not know what to do i feel most days i would be better joining my wife i pick up her hair brush and i start crying i can not live like this
Keith, we hear how tough things are for you right now, and want to reassure you that many people feel similar things when they lose a partner after so many years. It is normal that her personal things spark painful emotions.
Grief can bring so many emotions and thoughts, especially as it is new and raw. Please do reach out to your GP to talk about how you are feeling, and if you feel you are at risk and need immediate support then call 999.
If you just need a space to talk about how you are feeling then our Support Line is open until 4Pm on Freephone 0800 090 2309.
all i have to do is get my wife sorted out then i can join her because i just can not carry on with out her
Keith when you say you wish to join her do you mean you have thoughts of ending your own life ? I know we keep asking you this, but as of get you have not given us a clear response.
We have shared details with you of how to stay safe previously and I am going to do this again :
If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please know it is ok to seek immediate help. If youâre in the UK, you can do this by:
⢠going to any hospital A&E department (sometimes known as the emergency department)
⢠call 999 and ask for an ambulance if you canât get to A&E
⢠ask someone else to contact 999 for you or take you to A&E immediately
If you need some support right now, but donât want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:
⢠contact the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, theyâre open 24 hours and are there to listen
⢠contact your GP for an emergency appointment or the out of hours team
Please do know that for most people these thoughts do pass, and people do find ways in which to manage their grief and to find a new way of living.
god i donât know how i made it.the weekend was so bad i donât think i will be here next weekend
We are sorry to read that this weekend has been difficult for you Keith. We are concerned about you welfare. Have you made contact with your GP? If You feel at risk please call 999 for immediate support.
Best Wishes
Brigette
Hi Keith, we have sent you an email 
my wifeâs cremation is on the 16th /12/2025 i have to here for that after that i donât know what is going to happen
Thank you for sharing this and getting back to us Keith.
If you werenât able to speak to your GP about how youâre feeling, would you like us to contact them on your behalf?
If so, please can you respond to our email with your full name, date of birth, address and surgery details. Please do not share this information publicly on the Online Community.
another weekend so lonely ,just do not want to carry on i miss her so much
Hi Keithphillips2,
Iâm very sorry to hear about how you have been feelings since the loss of your wife.
You keep sharing you do not want to be here, does this you mean you have thoughts of ending your own life? I know we have asked this before, but as of yet we have not had a clear answer to this.
I am going to share how you can keep yourself safe if you are thinking you are going to act upon those feelings:
If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please know it is ok to seek immediate help. If youâre in the UK, you can do this by:
⢠going to any hospital A&E department (sometimes known as the emergency department)
⢠call 999 and ask for an ambulance if you canât get to A&E
⢠ask someone else to contact 999 for you or take you to A&E immediately
If you need some support right now, but donât want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:
⢠contact the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, theyâre open 24 hours and are there to listen
⢠contact your GP for an emergency appointment or the out of hours team
We have also previously shared that if you feel unable to reach out to your GP for support, that we may be able to help you with this. You can email your full name, date of birth, address and surgery details via email to support@mariecurie.org.uk. Please do not share this information on the Online Community.
Take care of yourself.
Hannah â Support Line Officer.
Hi Keith, weâre thinking of you today and are here for you on our Online Community and Support Line if you need us
this is the worse day of my life my wife is being cremated today so i donât have anything to live for
We understand that today is a difficult day for you, Keith. Would you like to give us a call later today to chat it through? Youâre also welcome to chat to us about how youâre feeling here on the Online Community. Weâre open until 6pm today
i just can not cope anymore my wife was cremated a day before our anniversary and they are delivering her ashes on Christmas eve they know how to kick when your down
Hello Keith.
Anniversaries and Christmas can understandably be really difficult times when you are grieving. Iâm really sorry to read that you have also had to cope with the cremation being on your anniversary and now face having your wifeâs ashes brought to you on Christmas Eve. I appreciate that we have said this before but if you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please know it is ok to seek immediate help using one of the options we have shared previously.
If you need a listening ear, the Support Line is open over the weekend 10am to 4pm
will tomorrow is the day she comes home .just ashes not the person i loved for many years so i will put a brave face on over christmas then find away i can join her in the new year why has cancer not just took one life it has kill a family with out there mom and wife and sister