she died on Wednesday morning so quick we did not have enough time
Weâre sorry to hear that Keith, thatâs really recent and must have come as a shock for you. Have you got anyone supporting you at this time?
Lots of people tell us that talking to someone whoâs not involved in the situation can help, here on the Online Community we can offer emotional support and a safe space for you to talk about how youâre feeling. Youâre welcome to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable to.
no i am all on my own
Thank you for sharing that with us, Keith.
You donât have to go through the grieving process alone. Weâre here for you and there are lots of ways to get support, whether you prefer to talk to someone in person or via our Online Community. Is there anything in particular you feel would be helpful for you?
to be truthful i just want to close my eyes and not wake up
Thank you for being truthful and sharing with us how youâre feeling Keith. Telling someone how youâre feeling can be scary.
If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please know it is ok to seek immediate help. If youâre in the UK, you can do this by:
⢠going to any hospital A&E department (sometimes known as the emergency department)
⢠call 999 and ask for an ambulance if you canât get to A&E
⢠ask someone else to contact 999 for you or take you to A&E immediately
If you need some support right now, but donât want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:
⢠contact the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, theyâre open 24 hours and are there to listen
⢠contact your GP for an emergency appointment or the out of hours team
what is the point there are no answers she has gone
Hi Keith, what youâre feeling is very normal following the death of someone you love. We have sent you an email, but could you give us a call for free on 0800 090 2309 to chat things through.
its been a week since my wife has passed and no purport from Macmillan . i just can not understand they could not do enough when my wife was alive now it is like that ones gone move on to the next one donât worry about the family hurting
Hi Keith,
You can give Macmillan a call for free on 0808 808 0000, or if you would prefer to email them you can do so here: Email the Macmillan Support Line - Macmillan Cancer Support to find out what support they may be able to offer.
We are here on our Online Community and Support Line for people who are grieving. Is there anything you feel would be helpful for you at the moment?
that would be a waste of time i really donât understand them .the nurse would pop in anything you wanted to know but now not even a phone call .
Hi Keith, Macmillan is a separate organisation to us and weâre unable to comment on their services.
you are all the same when my wife was alive the Macmillan nurse kept on going on about the help they can give when my wife passed but i got no help just a form to donate IT IS A JOKE
Hi Keith, unfortunately weâre unable to comment on Macmillan or their services, as they are not linked to Marie Curie.
Here at Marie Curie we can support you with your current situation and how youâre feeling, offering you a safe space to talk and focus on your own needs.
i just want to join my wife i havenât got anything to live for i hate cancer
Weâre sorry youâre feeling this way Keith. If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please know it is ok to seek immediate help.
If youâre in the UK, you can do this by:
⢠going to any hospital A&E department (sometimes known as the emergency department)
⢠call 999 and ask for an ambulance if you canât get to A&E
⢠ask someone else to contact 999 for you or take you to A&E immediately
If you need some support right now, but donât want to go to A&E, here are some other options for you to try:
⢠contact the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, theyâre open 24 hours and are there to listen
⢠contact your GP for an emergency appointment or the out of hours team
another day nothing changes my darling wife has gone and i am still here lost and all alone
at last just received a card from my wifeâs Macmillan nurse only took 8 days
Dear Keith,
I have not written in answer to your support question before, so I want to take a moment to say that I am very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you love your wife very much, and her loss is very painful.
The time immediately after a loved one dies is very difficult. When I lost a family member I felt very disoriented and lonely, and it was hard to believe that things could ever be different. It may be a cliche, but I had to take things one day at a time. And slowly, slowly, things got better.
You have asked for support here, and I know others have mentioned the Marie Curie support line before - for what itâs worth, the support line helped me when I was recently bereaved, and were so kind.
Take care,
Anke, a Member of the Marie Curie Online Community team
Just to say sorry for your loss. This must be an incredibly hard time for you. Hopefully time is a healer, but I know thatâs no consolation just now. Itâs good you have received a card from the nurse and maybe you will reach out to the support already mentioned. Take care