My wife died about 18 months ago after a 5 year battle with bowel cancer which then metasasised. M.C. provided both her and me with amazing support.
I have subsequently had a stroke which limits my ability to get out and i am now unable to drive. I am a strong person and i have my brain but am so lonely just to have someone to discuss the sort of day youve had or moan about the weather.
I know there are thousands of people in similar circumstances as me but it doesnt make it any easier.
Thank you very much for writing here, pwharrier. We are so sorry to hear that your wife died after living with bowel cancer for several years. Thank you also for mentioning the support you both received from Marie Curie, which is very much appreciated.
Your current situation sounds challenging, given your subsequent stroke and the fact that you are no longer able to drive. This, together with the loss of your wife, has resulted in some isolation and you feel lonely, which is completely understandable. Reaching out on this Community is a first step towards more connection, so thank you for taking this step.
If you would like to talk to someone on the phone, and if that is possible and comfortable for you, the Marie Curie Support Line is available for free at 0800 090 2309 (8am to 6pm Monday to Friday, and 10am to 4pm Saturday to Sunday). Those answering the support line are, in my experience, very kind and knowledgeable. You would, for example, be able to explore Marie Curie support for yourself during such a call, for example the Marie Curie Bereavement Support, which has accompanied many others who are bereaved through a few weeks of their grief. I myself have done this in the past, and it not only made me feel more connected, but it also opened up paths towards living with the grief for me.
If phone calls are difficult, you can also reach Marie Curie support by email at support@mariecurie.org.uk. And you are also very welcome to write again here if you would like to tell us a bit more or share more thoughts.
I hope that others who are reading your post will feel comfortable sharing their experiences with you.
With best wishes,
Anke