why do you lose all the support from the nurses when your love one dies
keithphillips2
Sorry to hear of your loss - thank you for reaching out on the community. It sounds like you are in a place where you would like more support for the bereavement you are going through. There is specific support on the ‘support line’ and the number is: 0800 090 2309. You have the option of spoken support there or written support here. Are you in a position to ask for support via your GP? Can I ask how recent your loss is? Grief can be so difficult - but without support when you feel you require it, it can be excruciating. Please know you are not alone on the wider scale and there are people on the community to talk to, either volunteers or others coping with loss.
thank you for relying but i just don’t know what to do we were together for 50 years and i don’t want to be here anymore
Hello keithphillips2,
We’re sorry to read about the death of your loved one.
It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of difficult things at the moment. It’s normal for people to express how much they miss their loved one by saying that they don’t want to be here anymore, however as a team we just want to check to find out more about what you mean by that phrase?
If you do have any plans to harm yourself we would encourage you to reach out to your GP, NHS 111 (option 2), or the Samaritans on freephone 116 123, they’re open 24 hours and are there to listen.
If you would like to speak to us, we’re available on our Support Line Monday to Friday 8am to 6pm and Saturdays and Sundays 10am to 4pm. You can call us for free on 0800 090 2309.
Take care,
Marie Curie Online Community Team
talking is not going to help Macmillan nurses have not phoned since my wife died
Hi keithphillips2,
Thank you for coming back to us. We want to ensure that you are safe, please can you clarify what you mean when you say that you ‘don’t want to be here anymore’?
We have some information on our website about looking after yourself while grieving that you may find helpful to have a look at here: Find out how to help yourself grieve | Marie Curie
We appreciate that you don’t want to talk on the phone, we can carry on chatting here. Would it help to tell me more about your wife and how you’re feeling?
why do people always send you to a web site .no one tells what you have to do when you need help you don’t get .
Hi keithphillips2,
Grief is entirely individual and can be different for everyone.
Please can we ask, what support do you feel would be helpful for you at the moment?
no one can tell why Macmillan nurses just leave you with no answers not even a phone call
We’re sorry to read about your experience, keithphillips2.
Unfortunately we’re not able to comment on the care provided by others. If you would like to speak to Macmillan regarding this you can contact them on 0808 808 00 00 or email them here: Email the Macmillan Support Line - Macmillan Cancer Support.
i contact them and they just send me to a web site
Would it be helpful for us to look at what support you may be able to access?
we cant even register my wife’s death yet the doctors have not done there part yet
Sorry to hear that, Keith.
Would you feel comfortable following up with the doctor to see what’s happening?
I appreciate you said people just send you to a website, but if it’s helpful we have information about registering a death here: Who can register a death and what you need to know to do it | Marie Curie
trying to contact our doctors is like winning the lottery
We appreciate how difficult this must be for you, especially right now.
Would there be the option to visit the surgery to speak to someone to see what’s happening?
they told me they would get back to me when its ready i just don’t care anymore
It sounds like it is all overwhelming at the moment. How are you managing with your well being Keith? Are you eating and sleeping? Do you have anybody offering you a listening ear or support at all?
can not sleep and i am not interested in eating
Morning Keith, So many people share with us that grief impacts on them physically. You may find it helpful or reassuring to take a look at this video : What does grief feel like?
Can we ask when your wife died Keith? From what you have shared about still waiting for the death certificates, it sounds like it was really recently? Would it help to talk about her at all?