Terminal cancer palliative care

Sham 7 years ago

3 replies

I don't now which way to turn iv been dealing with my mums illness for over 2 years. I wish it would just disappear and we could get back to normal. Plz can everyone advise me how to deal with this I feel so alone and isolated And no I don't have any siblings to help me

Support 7 years ago

Hi Sham,

I’m sorry to hear how alone you’re feeling right now whilst coping with your mum’s illness. Caring for someone can be an isolating experience, especially when you don’t have others in the family who can help out from time to time. We speak to many people in similar situations who often tell us they feel a complex emotions, some of them very difficult, so you’re not alone in feeling that you want the illness to ‘just disappear’.

Accessing some emotional and practical support for both you and your mum may help you to feel less alone and more in control of the situation you’re in. It’s great that you’ve found our online community and I hope you receive a response from others in the group soon. In the meantime, perhaps we can offer you some help? We do have a range of information on our website that you can download free of charge, such as ‘Coping with your feelings and dealing with other people’s’ as well as information about different kinds of practical support. Click here to see our full range.

You’re also very welcome to talk to us. As well as listening, we provide practical help for people and may be able to find some services in your local area. We can be contacted on our Freephone 0800 090 2309, or by web chat at: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help

Best wishes

Steve

(Information and Support Line Officer)

Support 7 years ago

Hi Sham,

I’m sorry to hear how alone you’re feeling right now whilst coping with your mum’s illness. Caring for someone can be an isolating experience, especially when you don’t have others in the family who can help out from time to time. We speak to many people in similar situations who often tell us they feel a complex emotions, some of them very difficult, so you’re not alone in feeling that you want the illness to ‘just disappear’.

Accessing some emotional and practical support for both you and your mum may help you to feel less alone and more in control of the situation you’re in. It’s great that you’ve found our online community and I hope you receive a response from others in the group soon. In the meantime, perhaps we can offer you some help? We do have a range of information on our website that you can download free of charge, such as ‘Coping with your feelings and dealing with other people’s’ as well as information about different kinds of practical support. Click here to see our full range.

You’re also very welcome to talk to us. As well as listening, we provide practical help for people and may be able to find some services in your local area. We can be contacted on our Freephone 0800 090 2309, or by web chat at: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help

Best wishes

Steve

(Information and Support Line Officer)

Mthomp6654 7 years ago

Hi Sham, I just wanted to let you know your not alone. I'm in a very similar position and my mam was asked if she would like to visit the local hospice. I was amazed a the services offered not only for the patient but also for the carers. My mam flat out refused but I thought it looked great. I hope this helps x