Bermisa 6 hours ago
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Hi I'm new here, thought I was doing ok but I'm really not. My dad had been fighting cancer for a couple of years and in the end went downhill extremely quickly and passed away. Every time my mind is still I get horrific flashbacks to that last week, I'm lucky as I've got a wonderful husband and friends to talk to but feel pushed away by my family. What I'm really having a hard time with is resentment towards my mum. She has made it all about her, like noone else could be grieving. I do understand of course it is awful for her and she misses him, but she behaves like she's the only one. She left me and my sister to deal with all the awful things in that last week. Some of the things she has said to people when I'm there has absolutely broken my heart and the way in which she treats me Infront of others, like I'm a servant. She not once in 4 months since dad died asked how me or my kids are doing. I live about an hour away from her and work full time so can only get up at the weekends, which having my own children, house, food shop etc I find stressful to fit in, and have absolutely no time to myself. She makes no effort towards my family and my children have passed comment around this, they are struggling with losing a grandparent and mum never asks how they are. Now my sister lives close by and calls regularly, mum goes there when invited, attends sports events etc I know geography comes into play too, I don't really know what I'm asking.
