Twinkletoes 7 years ago
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My mum was diagnosed with lung cancer on 28th September 2016 (her birthday). 4 weeks later she passed away in hospital with no family by her side. I had literally left the hospital an hour earlier. When mum was initially seen in clinic by the oncologist we were told her cancer was adenocarcinoma, a slow growing cancer. When she first passed away, I seemed to cope well, which I assumed was due to the fact that I was arranging the funeral and my mind was occupied etc. As the weeks went by I seemed to continued to cope, which I was concerned about, although I was in disbelief about the whole situation with it happening so quickly. In comparison to my dads death in 2003, I was absolutely inconsolable. In recent weeks, however, things have changed. I am so low, I have had no interest in getting dressed or going out, I have self harmed & I feel so guilty for not being with my mum when she passed & for not feeling any great emotions when she first passed away. I have two sons, 20 & 14, my youngest son is autistic & he is struggling emotionally to deal with the loss of his grandma. He is aware of her death & wanted to attend her funeral. Since then he has started to become quite verbally & physically aggressive at home & has become far more disruptive at school. I have spoken to my GP about my situation but they are reluctant to offer any therapy for 6 months as apparently I need to go through the normal grieving process first. With regard to my son, CAMHS have advised to just keep an eye on him. I wonder if there is any other advice you would be able to offer? Many thanks Mairi
