No emotions since mum passed away

  • Posts: 1
    Edited by: Kerry - 14/04/2018 13:06

    Since mum passed away two years ago, I have no emotions about anything in any area of life. I feel I died inside with my mum. I didn’t feel any emotions on mums death, I didn’t cry or feel sadness, and haven’t done since, even though she was an amazing beloved mum and best friend. I feel dead inside and it’s affecting my life, I don’t know what to do.

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    14/04/2018  15:46

    Hello Kerry

     

    I am sorry to read about the loss of your mum and all that you are going through.

     

    Everyone experiences the loss of a loved one differently, in a way that is unique to them. You have told us that you have no emotions about anything in any area of your life and that you feel dead inside which is affecting your life, have you tried talking about these feelings with your GP? These professionals are there to oversee all of your physical health needs along with your mental health needs, so we would suggest a chat with your doctor in the first instance if you haven’t already done so.

     

    People often tell us that talking about our emotions can help us to process and understand them. Some people say that it helps when we speak them aloud. We have information about how you can access support on our website that you may find useful here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/bereavement-or-grief-counselling . Your GP should also be able to direct you towards appropriate services too. 

     

    On our Support Line we are here to listen if you need someone to talk to, you can reach us on Freephone 0800 090 2309. You can also message us privately through this Community Forum by clicking on our name or logo and selecting ‘private message’. Please note that we are only here until 5pm today however I have put some other Support options below for you in case you want support outside of our opening hours:

     

    •          The Bereavement Trust are there to offer support to anyone that has experienced the loss of a loved one. Their support line is open from 6pm until 10pm every evening and you can reach them on 0800 435 455.

     

    •          The Samaritans are there to offer a safe place for you to talk any time you like, in your own way about whatever is getting to you. You can visit their website here: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us or call them for free on 116 123. They are available 24 hours a day.

     

    It’s important to know that you don’t have to go through bereavement alone, I hope that you will find the above information useful, do get in touch with us if you would like to talk about any of this in more detail or if you need a listening ear.

     

    Our opening hours are 8am – 6pm Monday to Friday and 11am to 5pm Saturday. You can also contact us during these hours through our web chat function by clicking here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/marie-curie-support-line

     

    Take care,

     

    Sam

     

    Marie Curie Support Line 


  • Posts: 3
    19/06/2018  15:43

    Hi Kerry,

    I also lost my mum 2 years ago. Not a day goes by without thinking of her. I'm not an emotional person either, and find it hard to open up. I do recommend counselling though. With a counsellor you can just sit, laugh, cry or chat about times with your mum. In my experience I wasn't sure if the counselling was "working", but found myself getting home from it and either being moody, or crying my eyes out in my bedroom away from the husband and kids. I found the nightmares stopped, and I started sleeping better. I found counselling helped without me realising at the time. It was only when I looked back I realised that I had got through another week, and I had slept at night without waking up every couple of hours.

    I also took up exercise which helped my mind massively.

    Wishing you the best of luck x

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