my husband and me.

battybev 9 years ago

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Edited by battybev 9 years ago

Hi my husband has lu ng cancer to the right lung and central lymph nodes. He's had four bouts of chemo and today we embark on the radiotherapy side once sorted it will be everyday for four weeks. He's a bit apprehensive well we both are but know its important. Whole new ball game. I'm currently off work to support him but I need to renew my note to support the radiotherapy. Why am I feeling so guilty about it. He is going through lotsvat the moment and struggles with his breathing and to be honest it bothers me to leave him on his own for long periods of time. Is it normal to feel so crap from the patients side and the carers. Thanks

Support 9 years ago

Hi BattyBev, 

It is totally normal for the carer as well as the patient to struggle with what is happening. This diagnosis has thrown everything you both know up in the air and it can be hard to adjust to this new routine. Being a carer can often bring with it feelings of guilt that we feel we should not be experiencing and not acknowledge. At the moment for you the guilt is about having to take longer off work, feeling torn between wanting to support your husband and letting down your employer. Again this is a very common worry. It may assist you to look at the carers pages on our website.

What is positive is that you are recognizing how you are feeling. Talking to others about your feelings can be very important in helping you cope with them. It can also help you in being able to carry on providing the support you want to give to your husband. We are here for you in the Marie Curie community. If you feel it would help you to talk please also contact us on our support line – 0800 090 2309.