Lost of my friend

Julia 8 years ago

5 replies

Hello, i recently lost my friend and I'm finding it difficult to cope. X

Clare 8 years ago

Hi Julia, we are so sorry to hear about the death of your friend. Grieving is painful and particularly when the loss is so recent. Everyone experiences grief in their own way, it is important to let yourself mourn as much and as long as is right for you. Grief can never be fixed, diminished or taken away but in time feelings can begin to change. Talking about how you are feeling can be very helpful and we are here for you in the Marie Curie community. If you feel it would help you to talk please also contact us on our support line – 0800 090 2309.  

Wendi 8 years ago

I lost by bestest friend New Year's Eve 2913 and the loss I feel even now is so immense. I was by her side every step of the way from finding the lump in her breast in 2010 every single appointment and treatment. Her joy at thinking she had beaten this to then fall ill Nov 13 and stayed with her in the hospital doing all her care myself till the very end. From metastatic breast cancer that had gone to her liver. Everyday is a struggle. And the only way I can put it is she took a massive part of me with her. And I'm struggling with my new identity and who I am without my best friend.

Support 8 years ago

Hi Wendi,

I can feel the emotion behind your post and appreciate what an impact the loss of your best friend has had on your identity. Many people talk to us about how they struggle to find a new identity and purpose when they are grieving the death of loved one or friend. It is important that you allow yourself to grieve and mourn as long as you need to and talking about your feelings may help with this.

We have some information that you may find helpful to read on adjusting to your new situation which you can find here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/being-there/life-after-caring. Anniversaries, birthdays and other special days can be daunting at Marie Curie we understand that, this means that our Support Line will be open every day over the Christmas period and if you would like to chat with us you can find our opening times and contact details here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/marie-curie-support-line

Best Wishes

Brigette

Marie Curie Support Line

Wendi 8 years ago

Thank you so much brigette. this month is so exceptionally hard we spent the whole month of dec in hospital. And everything comes flooding back.. And what seems strange is alright I think of her all the time soon as dec comes I'm waking up with her immediately on my mind? and very touchy and tearful? It's nice to know that there is people out there to talk to. And I thank you Wendi

Support 8 years ago

Hi Wendi,

Feeling touchy and tearful are all part of the grief process. You say that December was a significant time for you and your friend so it is normal that she is on your mind. Lots of things will trigger the memories of that time as there are so many reminders of the time of year- television adverts, decorations and events.

Please remember that the Support Line is open every day over the Christmas Period and you are welcome to get in touch if you would like to chat with one of us, detail please call our Free phone Support Line on 0800 090 2309, or drop us a line via Web Chat: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help

Take Care

Brigette

Marie Curie Support Line.