Lost both parents within 7months

Vatb95 10 months ago

3 replies

Hi all,

Not entirely sure what to write, however here’s my story: in the last 7 months I lost my Dad and now my Mum. I am barely 28 years old with a toddler, working full time and get married in just 3 months time. I feel devastated and alone… I guess I’m wondering if there is anybody else out there in a similar situation that could help me understand/navigate what has happened.

Both were unexpected yet expected to an extent. I am so numb to what has just happened, I feel all I can do right now is continue for my child.

admin 10 months ago

Hello Vatb95,

We’re sorry to read about the recent loss of your parents and all that you’re going through.

You mentioned that you feel numb and alone which is a completely natural response to losing someone. Everyone experiences grief differently. Whatever you are feeling, it’s important to try to be kind to yourself.

We hope that others here on our Community will see your post and share ways that helped them cope with their grief. If anyone is reading this and can offer some support to Vatb95, please share your own experience and comment below. 

In the meantime Vatb95, we have some useful information on our website about grieving in your own way that you may wish to take a look at here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/grieving-your-way and we’re here for you on our Online Community too. Feel free to share as much or as little as you like with us as often as you need to 💛

Peppers 10 months ago

Dear Vatb95

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your parents. There are no words to describe the loss of losing your parents. Grief is a horrible rollercoaster ride of emotions and what you are experiencing is normal and part of the grieving process. I would like to direct you to the Sue Ryder Online Bereavement Community where you can interact with people who have experienced what you are going through as an extra to this Community for support. Below is the website and helpful resources by Sue Ryder which may be of help to you. The Grief Coach would be with looking at. 

Sue Ryder Online Bereavement Community

Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS. Family and friends can also use this free service.

• The self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief Grief Guide
• Information on the Stages of Grief
• Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
• There is also a blog on Losing a Parent which may be of help and support to you.

It might be helpful to make an appointment with your GP if you have not done so already so you can see what kind of support they can offer you and let them know how you are feeling.  Hope this helps. Take care. 

Peppers

admin 9 months ago

Thank you so much for sharing Peppers, it's so kind of you to offer support and words of encouragement to Vatb95. 

Thank you for also suggesting the Sue Ryder Community, we're aware that our Community isn't as active as we would like it to be at the moment and this is something we're looking to improve. If you have any ideas, or would like to help us in any way please don't hesitate to get in touch.

Marie Curie Online Community Team 💛