ClareC 6 months ago
Hi, I'm new to this but I lost my Uncle to Cancer it'll be 3 years next month. He never had any kids and I grew up without a dad so naturally we were closer I was like the daughterhe didn't have and he was my shoulder to cry on, my father figure, I was 21 when he got really sick and stepped up to care for him, I spent every day with him for the last 18 months it was extremely difficult but I never complained. It was Thursday morning and I turned up for my usual coffee and walk at the hospice to be told we were in the final days. I stayed there from 8am until 2am Friday morning, went home to sleep while other family members took over, Friday was the same and Saturday I slept on the chair, went home for head space as it was so tough, got up and ready to go back and was 10 minutes away when I got the call from my aunt to say he was gone. Its 10 days from his 3rd anniversary and things haven't gotten any easier, sometimes I think its gotten harder. How do you cope? How do you let go? It is normal to grieve so hard after 3 years?