Hello, my name is Robert and my wife Beth have been married for 28 years. My wife Beth is 48 and I am 60.
Last December my wife through an operation for bowel cancer. In January, she started chemotherapy. After 5 sessions Beth took a reaction to the infusion and so they stopped them, however she was able to carry on with the oral drugs. At this stage we were coping with this reasonably well until we were told that it had returned. Beth was started on a different lot of drugs, unfortunately she was admitted to our local cancer unit to get her pain under control, which they did only to be followed by 5 days of diarrhea and losing blood. Further investigations were carried out and we were told that she has colitis. At this moment in time we are waiting for the results of biopsies coming back from Pathology to tell us what kind of colitis that she has.
The past 28 years of our marriage, Beth has spoiled me and I am going to have to try and learn a whole lot of new skills.
I have just come to the end of my two week October holiday. Fortunately, I have had the good sense to talk to my GP and she has signed of work for another two weeks. I feel that I can not go back to my work until I see my wife at home and settled, however I still don't feel that I would be able to leave my wife at home on her own.
This is like a nightmare and I expect to wake up from it and find out that that was what it was. I am still waiting to wake up!!
We have both worked hard all our lives and will accept any help however small gratefully.