I'm really sorry don't know if im on the right page, site etc but im struggling with the loss of my mother in law. Lung cancer Oct 2014, God bless her went through a terrible time but we (as a family) haven't grieved. Had chance too really. My husband is the youngest of 3 boys & they are quite an estranged bunch so this time is even more strange. I'm struggling with how to deal with things sorry to be a burden of bad news & to even seem selfish. I'm trying to help my husband but at the mo he's either really clingy or very distant. I don't know of im allowed to show that I too am grieving or to just pretend to be strong? As a family I feel we are all walking on egg shells, I know it's early days but im an open person so feel I need to express with someone.