Feel at a loss

Cumbria89 8 years ago

1 reply

Hi everyone,

Never really done this before so here goes....

Lost my step dad to cancer (liver) a couple of weeks ago and feel at a bit of a loss to be honest, along with my granddad the week before that #doublewammy . I'm trying to stay as strong as possible for my mum and keep as busy as possible with work etc... but I cannot stop thinking about it. Any suggestions or ideas would be really cool,

Thank you,

Support 8 years ago

Hi Cumbria89,

Losing a loved one can be painful experience, and even more so if it is someone we have shared a special bond with. In your situation, you have lost two people you were close to in a very short time scale so it is not surprising that you are feel the way you do.

There is nothing I can say in this post that will take that pain away from you; powerful feelings of loss and anxiety are the price we pay for loving someone. Grief is a natural response to losing someone you care about. And there's no right or wrong way to grieve, The important thing is that you allow yourself to grieve for both your step father and grandfather for as much and as long as you need to. The grief will always be with you, but it will become more manageable with time and more importantly with support. Tray, I have attached a link to the bereavement section on our website, the information here may go some way in helping you explore what you are currently experiencing. It may also be worth speaking to CRUSE bereavement.

https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/bereaved-family-friends

Many people find it helpful to share their feelings.  I hope you get a reply from others on this forum. If not, please note that our Support Line is available, should you wish to talk to us. You can contact us free on 0800 090 2309, or drop us a line via Web Chat: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help

Other organisations you may wish to contact are

Cruse: 0808 808 1677

The Bereavement Trust: 0800 435 455

Best wishes,

Brigette

Support Line Officer