Devastated

nickym 1 year ago

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Hi, just need some help. On Thursday I was told I had cancer of the spine, has come like a bolt out of the blue. Like so many people I am the gel that holds the family together. I am 57 years old have 2 children in their 30’s and 3 beautiful grandchildren. I don’t know what to think, I am completely lost and don’t know how to re act. I am hurting my husband and the people around me and don’t know how to make it better for them. Anyone out there in a similar situation? I haven’t had my consultation to tell me if I can have treatment so I am in limbo and all I want to know is how long I have left, but all this sounds so desperate. Nicky

David 1 year ago

Hi nickym,

Welcome to the Marie Curie Online Community and we’re sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis and the understandable shock of hearing this news.

Feeling lost and uncertain how to react is completely normal in this situation. The uncertainty of not knowing what options will be available in terms of treatment can be stressful too as you wait for the consultation. It sounds like your thoughts are also on your family and how this will impact on them.

Hopefully others here on the Marie Curie community will be able to share their support for you during this difficult time and anything they found useful in a similar situation . Our Support Line team are also available for any practical questions you might have as well as offering a listening ear on Freephone 0800 090 2309 and through webchat at www.mariecuie.org.uk.

We also have information on our website about coping with a recent diagnosis if this would help: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/diagnosed/practical-emotional-support/coping

If you’re ever looking for regular emotional support over the phone, there is also our Check In and Chat service. You can find out more at https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/check-in-and-chat.

Take care,

David – Support Line Officer