Hi, I am wondering if you can help, even just an understanding ear. Sadly my dad, Ben was diagnosed with terminal oesophageal cancer in July and given approx 6 months to live. He lives on his own in Dewsbury so I have left my husband and family behind in the south of England and temporarily relocated to care for my Dad during his final weeks. This whole situation is just a living nightmare for him and me, watching him waste away before my eyes and knowing there is nothing I can do about it.
He is obviously becoming more poorly as the weeks are progressing and although I've managed to sort out various pieces of equipment for his home to make his life a little easier, I still worry about him when I am not there. At the moment I am leaving him in the evenings so I can go back to my rented room to eat and sleep and then I come back every morning.
I am hoping to return south to visit my husband and family for a long weekend but I am struggling to find someone to visit him while I am away. I have spoken to Macmillan but they are doubtful that they can offer any assistance so I'm understandably worried sick and I am now contemplating cancelling my respite plans. When I suggested contacting Gateway to Care, Macmillan didn't seem to think that they would be able to help either which I find both extraordinary and frustrating as I have never asked for any help up to this point.
A friend mentioned that Marie Curie may be able to help so I am hoping that you can offer me some advice about what to do or how to sort something out in these kind of circumstances. I haven't had the chance to visit my family since moving to West Yorkshire in September and would really appreciate the chance to do so!