Terminal illness - struggling to deal

Ekir 6 years ago

5 replies

My mum's chemo was stopped 2 weeks ago. The outlook for the future isn't good. I'm trying to be strong but I'm really struggling. I'm not sleeping and some days I feel like my heads going to explode. My dad talking about the practical side of things funeral plans and us looking after her long term. I'm really struggling - I'm signed off work and can't keep it together.

Support 6 years ago

Hi Ekir,

I am sorry to read that mum’s chemo has stopped and the impact of that. This news, even if has been expected, can come as a shock and change our perception of the future. Many people struggle to cope when faced with uncertainty. It is really brave that you have reached out for support and talking about your situation may well help you to process your thoughts and feelings. You say that you have been signed off of work and I am wondering if you were able to open and honest with your GP about your thoughts and feelings? If so what support have they offered you?

We have information on the website that looks at the dealing with the different feelings that family members and carer’s may experience. You can find it here .If you would like to talk about things in more detail please call our Free phone Support Line on 0800 090 2309, or drop us a line via Web Chat https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/marie-curie-support-line

Best Wishes

Brigette

Marie Curie Support Line 

maxrefugee 6 years ago

[quote]My mum's chemo was stopped 2 weeks ago. The outlook for the future isn't good. I'm trying to be strong but I'm really struggling. I'm not sleeping and some days I feel like my heads going to explode. My dad talking about the practical side of things funeral plans and us looking after her long term. I'm really struggling - I'm signed off work and can't keep it together.[/quote]

maxrefugee 6 years ago

[quote]My mum's chemo was stopped 2 weeks ago. The outlook for the future isn't good. I'm trying to be strong but I'm really struggling. I'm not sleeping and some days I feel like my heads going to explode. My dad talking about the practical side of things funeral plans and us looking after her long term. I'm really struggling - I'm signed off work and can't keep it together.[/quote]

Lyn1971 6 years ago

Hi my partner has been ill for some time and has just been told he has lung cancer that can't be cured plus he is on dialysis 3 days a week... I know how your feeling some days I just can't function...eating is the last thing on my mind because I'm all knotted up inside... all my family and friends live 300 miles away so I don't have anyone to share with.

Support 6 years ago

Hi Lyn1971,

I am sorry to read about your partner’s diagnosis and the impact this having on yourself. When we first get the news that a loved one’s diagnosis is terminal it is very normal to experience a wide range of emotions and feelings. Not being able to share your thoughts and feelings can add to that knotted up inside feeling. If you would like to talk to us about how you are feeling the Support Line can be contacted on 0800 090 2309 (we are open until 5pm today). Our normal opening times can be seen here.

You may find the information coping with feelings here helpful. If you would like to talk about things in more detail please call our Freephone Support Line on 0800 090 2309, or get in touch with us through our web chat function here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/marie-curie-support-line

Best Wishes

Brigette

Marie Curie Support Line