Pregnant & my dad may not see my baby

JMIR 7 years ago

2 replies

Edited by JMIR 7 years ago

Hi

My dad has been unwell for the last 14 years with a rare kidney & blood disease. He went for a monitor to be fitted as prep for having his heart restarted as it's irregular. They scanned him & found a tear in his aorta a leaking valve & arterial tears to his brain back & legs. He was due to be operated on but as the survival was so slim everyone agreed as did he to come home. They couldn't give an estimate of how long he has but that when he does go it will be instant. I am 5 months pregnant & finding it hard to accept he may not see my child. I am very close to him and we are a close family. I'm struggling to come to terms that one day that will be it & if that's before my baby is born how I will react and to be honest scared not just loosing dad but also my baby. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Support 7 years ago

Hi JMIR,

I am sorry to read about your Dad’s diagnosis and how scared you are feeling. It is very normal to experience a wide range of emotions when we receive the news that somebody we love is terminal. Talking about emotions and feelings can be beneficial and if you feel unable to have those conversations with your family you are very welcome to contact us here at the Support Line on Freephone 0800 090 2309.

Your midwife or medical team will be able to provide you with the information, reassurance and support you may need during your pregnancy and when your baby is born. Are you able to tell them about the struggles you are facing?

Best Wishes

Brigette

Marie Curie Support Line  

JMIR 7 years ago

Hi Brigette

Thank you for your reply. I'm not due to see my midwife until October but I am going to see if I can have an earlier appointment. I will definitely give you a call too thank you.