My best friend lost her mum 18 mounts

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Mccj1404 5 years ago

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Hi, I hope you don't mind I'm not sure if I've come on to the right place for advice but I am desperately worried my best friend .She lost her mum 18 mounts ago very quickly to cancer (within 3 mounths) Since then she has been very strong and been a rock for her dad and her teenage children however over the last week she has totally broken down, she hasn't gone to work ,got dressed and is completely broken . I have asked her to go and talk/see her GP but she just keeps saying that she can't go on . I am at a loss how to help her practicaly. Today I eventually kind of bullied her into getting dressed and go to other friend of ours for some super, she has a very good friend support network but she has totally withdrawn from everyone . Any advice would be greatfully appracaited

Brigette 5 years ago

Hi Mccj1404,

Welcome to the community and I hope that others community members reading this will join in the with the conversation and share their experience with you.

Grief is a very personal journey and no two people experience it in the same way. It sounds like your friend has been very focused on others and up until this point has not allowed herself time to process her thoughts, emotions or grief. Grief can be very overwhelming and suggesting she speaks to her GP is good idea.

You mention that she talks about not being able to go on. Are you worried that she has suicidal thoughts of feelings? If this is the case then the following factsheet produced by Mind may be helpful : https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helping-someone-else/supporting-someone-who-feels-suicidal/#.XMqbNxRKgnQ

We have lots of information about grief and grieving on our website which you can find here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/grieving-your-way

If you or your friend would like to talk to us at the Support Line then we are here for emotional support and a listening ear. We can be contacted on Freephone 0800 090 2309. Take care

Brigette