Debbiew 1 day ago
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My 60 brother was told his cancer was terminal at the end of 2023 when it spread to his lungs but that with treatment he would have 6-7 years of a normal independent life. And until March this year that is what it was like. Then in March he started having trouble breathing and was admitted into hospital. Since that time he has been in and out of hospital and I have come to live with him.
He is eating very little and has lost a massive amount of weight. His breathing has not improved but he has got used to it by spending all his time in bed and just sitting up intermittently to cough up some phlegm. He uses a urine jar and only leaves his bed to use the toilet about once a day, which exhausts him.
During his last hospital stay he picked up covid which I also now have and I too am coughing up phlegm and the weight has also just dropped off me. I am really struggling to try to get over this and look after him. And this new reality has had a massive impact on both of us. The district nurses are regularly visiting but i feel so alone and can see no light at the end of this tunnel.
