Grief

Deb02 1 month ago

3 replies

My husband died at the beginning of April after a 5 years of treatment for stomach cancer. I know it is really early days but just keep getting overwhelmed by the fact that I can’t speak to him any more and how sad that makes me feel.

Daffodil 1 month ago

Dear Deb02,

I am sorry to read that your husband has died only a few weeks ago, and that you are experiencing overwhelm and sadness. It is very normal and natural for you to miss him and the conversations with him.

Many people tell us that talking about their loved ones and their experiences of grief can help. You are welcome to use this forum to express how you are feeling, and I hope that other members of this community will join in to share any experiences they have had, and what has helped them cope with similar situations.

If you think you would benefit from a regular conversation on the phone to receive some emotional support, you might consider talking to one of our volunteers via the telephone bereavement service. More information is available here: www.mariecurie.org.uk/services/bereavement-support-service.

Best wishes,

💛 Anke, a member of the Marie Curie Online Community Team

Deb02 1 month ago

Anke, thank you for your reply. Life feels a bit of a roller coaster at the moment - I have brief periods of feeling OK but then suddenly I can be in floods of tears.

We knew that he didn’t have long to live just before Christmas so had lots of conversations which I am grateful for but when it actually happens it knocks you side ways.

LauraCW 1 month ago

Hi Deb02,

Thanks so much for getting in touch and I am so sorry to hear about the death of your husband. It must feel incredibly overwhelming and the sadness and finality can leave you feeling so desolate. 

I am so pleased that you have reached out to us. Rollercoaster is such an apt description, it is so hard to know how you are going to feel from one day to the next and that in itself can be very destabilising. 

It is wonderful that you had lots of conversations with your husband and I hope over time that can bring you some comfort,  but it can be very hard to find comfort in anything in these raw early days.

As Anke says, Marie Curie have an excellent Bereavement Support Service which can be accessed at any point through your grieving journey, so even if you don’t feel ready now, it might be something to consider further down the line.

Are you receiving support from family and friends? 

Warmest wishes,

Laura, Marie Curie volunteer for the Online Community Team