Husband directing anger at me

anniemxx 5 years ago

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My father in law passed away in November 2018 and my husband has been having a hard time, which is understandable. However, lately all his anger is being pushed on me. If something goes missing it’s my fault, if something doesn’t go as planned it’s my fault etc... I’m finding it hard to deal with being the blame and don’t know how I can help him through this period as he won’t let me in and just expects me to know what’s going on. I’m so emotional over it I can’t even focus in work and dread going home because I don’t know what I will be blamed for next

Clare 5 years ago

Hello anniemxx,

We’re sorry to read about the recent loss of your father in law and all that yourself and your husband are experiencing. It sounds as though things are difficult for you both right now.

Experiencing the loss of a loved one can be tough to cope with and grief can bring with it a mixture of powerful emotions. Whilst the grieving process is unique for everyone, anger can be an emotion that is commonly experienced. Many people like yourself share with us the challenges and emotional impact they face whilst trying to support a loved one.

Relate feature some information about supporting a partner that is grieving that you may find helpful, if so, you can read this here: https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/communication/how-support-grieving-partner .

Sharing how you are feeling, as you are doing here on the community can be an important way of helping yourself cope during this difficult time. Whilst we are here to offer support on this community, we are also here with a listening ear on our Support Line if you need to talk to someone about how you’re feeling. You can reach us on Freephone 0800 090 2309.

Take care,

Clare - Support Line Team