Question from Devonbird04: My mil died of brain cancer in 2011. Our son was 17 months when this happened, we have photos of her around the house and visit her grave regularly. He remembers that nana was in a wheelchair ( every wheelchair he sees he looks in to check for nana)
We never told him she had died as he was too young, he has now started to ask to see her and go to her house. My husband explained that she is an angel but he is asking the why she is and how. We are finding this difficult to answer, what would you suggest?
Thank you for your time
Hi there, thank you for your question. Your son at the stage in his grief where he needs to understand where his nana is. If his last memory is of nana being in a wheelchair that is probably why he associates everyone who is in a wheelchair could be his nana. Go with your beliefs in what happens when you die. He is probably asking how nana has become an angel. Talk to him about nana was very poorly and the doctors did everything they could to help nana to live. Because she was so poorly they weren’t able to and now nana is not in pain and is safe. It is important to use the word died as this will help him to understand that he won’t be able to see nana again.