Hi I’m new I lost my mum last week. I knew her days were limited and she was suffering so I feel a sort of relief she is not longer in pain . However I feel so empty knowing I have no family left it was always just me and her. She was my biggest supporter and I just can’t imagine living life without her. The thought of birthdays Christmas my future wedding all these special occasions without my mum wont feel real. Being only 22 I feel very alone and overwhelmed.
Hello Gemmam1602,
We are sorry to read about the loss of your mum. Your feelings and emotions are completely understandable.
I am going to share some information with you about grief support from our website.
How to get support for grief and bereavement when someone dies (mariecurie.org.uk)
I am also sharing a link to a charity that helps support people ages 12-25 that you may wish to look at Hope Again
If you would like to speak to us on the support line, then we are here to offer a listening ear and emotional support. Our number is Freephone 0800 090 2309 and of course there is this community. We do hope others will be along to share their experiences too.
Take care,
Alexia-Support Line Officer
Hi Gemma, First of all I’m so so sorry to hear about your mum. It’s so terrible!! I just thought I’d reply to your message as I recently lost my mum too! I am 32 so a little older than you! I lost my mum fairly quickly however she was in and out of hospital for the last 3 or 4 years of her life! I absolutely understand how you’re feeling in terms of thinking about Christmas, birthdays and all the big events in your life that you have got to come! I have been thinking about getting a little ring or something made in memory of my mum so that in some form she is with me in these times. My mum was cremated so we have her ashes but even if you don’t have your mums you can still get something to dedicate to her and know that when you wear it she’s right there with you!! It can be every day or just for special occasions!! I really hope that now you are finding peace with everything and are going okay! Lots of love to you!! Rachael
Hi Rach2005,
Thank you so much for responding to Gemmam1602, and sharing your experience with them.
A ring or getting something made in memory of your mum sounds like a wonderful idea 
Hi Rachael, thank you for your response, I really appreciate it .I am sorry to hear you are in the same position. It is horrible to watch your mum in hospital unfortunately I am very familiar with the place too. That is a lovely idea about having a ring made from the ashes . I will definitely look into doing something similar to always have her with me!. Thank you so much . I hope you are doing okay too. With love Gemma x
Hi Gemmam, I lost my Dad in 2017 and mum last December. I’m older then you,50 next month. It’s so hard at whatever age,but it must be so much harder when your young. I am really dreading my 50 next month as I always thought my parents would be here to celebrate with me,I will just be having a meal with close family.(As I haven’t really got any close friends). I have some of mum&Dad’s ashes,which I have been meaning to have made into a charm for my bracelet, but I haven’t been strong enough to part with them up until yesterday. I emailed a company which turn ashes into jewellery and explained I wanted a charm done and been meaning to do it sooner.They are going to try and get it done and sent before my birthday so in a way they will be with me on my 50 th birthday. I still feel so empty and alone at times ,it’s so so hard when you lose a parent when they have always been here in our life’s.You will go through every emotion possible. I have now completed a 12 week course of cbt therapy and it’s helped alot to think differently and to cope with things easier. I am now waiting for bereavement therapy. It really is a lot to deal with at the age of 22,I really am thinking of you at this sad,hard time.xx
I’m really sorry to hear about your mum Gemma.
My father died when I was 19 and it’s a horrendous thing to deal with. My only advice would be to keep her alive within your life - talk about her lots, remember her, show her photos to people, and make her as much a part of those future things as you can. Be honest with friends if you are struggling, and utilise brilliant organisations like Marie Curie and others for support.
It doesn’t make the pain any easier, but she will live on beside you. Thinking of you x
Hi Pebbles,
We’re sorry to read about the loss of both of your parents.
You’re absolutely right, losing someone you love at any age can be hard. Thank you for sharing such kind words with Rach2005 and Gemmam1602.
Special days, like birthdays can evoke powerful emotions, we hope whatever you end up doing to mark the occasion that you are kind to yourself and are able to take some time to enjoy the day.
The charm sounds like such a wonderful idea to remember your parents
Hi Cactus29,
We’re sorry to read about the death of your father when you were 19.
Thank you so much for reaching out and sharing advice with Gemmam1602, they all sound like really lovely ways of remembering someone you love