Just looking around and did post in another category .
Just starting on my road to life without my ex husband, my friend and my soul mate , only realised too late.
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Hello Dinky,
I’ve just replied to your post in the other category, but I wanted to come back to you here as well.
Would you like to share more about how you’re feeling with us? You’re welcome to share as much or as little as you like 
Take good care,
Bonnie
Hello Dinky.
I have recently lost my wife after over twenty years. We were soul mates too and everyone said we were joined at the hip because everything we did we did together. I don’t have any family of my own and I miss Lyn, my wife, so very much!
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Hello Mokka,
We’re sorry to read about the recent loss of your wife Lyn. It’s understandable that you miss her, especially after over twenty years together.
We hope you find some comfort here on our Online Community, and we also wanted to let you know that we offer telephone bereavement support of 6 sessions with a trained volunteer if you feel this would be helpful. You can find out more here: Bereavement support | Grief support | Marie Curie
You’re also very welcome to continue speaking with us here on the Online Community as often as you like.
Take good care,
Bonnie
Thank you but I don’t understand how this site works? Other than you I’ve not had any contact from anyone at all! How do I talk to people in a similar situation to me?
Hi Mokka,
Thanks for getting in touch and for your questions.
Other members of the online community who have lived experience of loss are free to comment or join in conversations, as are our volunteers, many of whom have also experienced loss. So hopefully someone will reach out to you very soon.
I hope this helps and in the meantime, please know that we are here to support you and provide a safe space for you to express your emotions.
Warmest wishes,
Laura
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Hi, I lost my husband back in June. I just wanted to say hello and that I’m trying to navigate this loss as well.
The volunteers here may take 24 hours to reply as they’re volunteers but they’re lovely and extremely helpful. They’ll point you in the right direction whether you need advice or someone to talk to.
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Thank you. I’m not sure how this works, does LittleSparra get this response? I miss my wife so much and feel so lonely as I don’t have any other family. Just someone in a similar position to talk to would be good.
Graham
Dear Graham,
I am so sorry to hear that your wife Lyn died recently. It is clear from your post how close you were, and having been together for more than twenty years it is understandable that you miss her so much.
LittleSparra may have set up notifications to be alerted when someone sends an answer to a post, or may only see this when they next log into the forum. You may also want to start your own post (or ‘topic’), perhaps with a title that indicates that you would like to hear from others who are bereaved, and they can then post in response to your post and share their experiences. Starting your own topic with a clear title may make it easier for others to find your post and reply in support.
Finally, for what it’s worth, the Bereavement Telephone Service offered by Marie Curie - which Bonnie mentioned above - helped me a lot when I lost a loved one. It was really good to have a friendly volunteer listen to anything I wanted to talk about once a week. Is that something you would consider?
Take good care,
Anke
Yes, I got a notification saying you replied to me. If you post elsewhere, I won’t see it unless I specifically look for your posts.
I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely Graham. The people on here are very friendly.
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Thank you. I’m new to this so is communication just by email or should I be writing somewhere else? How do I contact others?
Graham
Thank you for writing again, Graham. I saw that you just posted a new topic, so that is all set up and ready for others to comment. I hope other members of this Community will feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and experiences with you.
As an online community, this Community works through members (and volunteers like me) commenting on others’ posts. All communications between members happen on this forum and within the topics, like the communications you have had above. Some posts receive more reactions than others, and the Community is still growing.
If you would like to have direct and private contact with someone, this would need to be a trained volunteer via the telephone bereavement support that Bonnie mentioned above. You can find out more here: Bereavement support | Grief support | Marie Curie
With best wishes,
Anke
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Hello
How are you? I’ve no idea how this is supposed to work! I’m writing /sending things but can’t tell if they are getting to where they should be.
Dear Graham,
We are very sorry that you have not had any responses from other bereaved spouses here or on your new post. We (and anyone reading these topics) can see your posts. Your other post - the one you started titled ‘Lonely husband…’ - had 28 views when I just looked. The number of views is displayed below the latest post. A ‘view’ here means that someone called up and looked at that page. Each time someone does that, the count goes up (when I first looked this morning, there were 27 views, so it counted me twice today, and I am about to write a response to you there, too, so the count will go up to 29). Primarily, this Community is a safe space for you to share your thoughts and experiences; as a second step, it is possible - but not guaranteed - that someone will feel comfortable writing below your post, in response, to lend you some support.
There are also others’ posts from the past on their grief in the archive of this community, which you can browse by clicking ‘Topics’ in the menu (this is in the left-hand bar if you are on a computer) and then selecting the category ‘Grief and Bereavement in the drop-down menu. Many members of the Community find reading about others’ experiences helpful.
As mentioned previously, if you are interested in someone listening to you once a week, the Marie Curie Bereavement service is a good way to have regular contact with a trained volunteer. You will find all the information about how to sign up here: Marie Curie Telephone Bereavement Service.
Take good care,
Anke
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