I lost my dad on the 25th October 2017 I feel so empty and lost he battled pancreatic cancer for 2 years how do you cope with the pain .
Hi Laurie,
I am sorry to read about the recent death of your dad. Grief is a very individual process and there is no right or wrong way to be. Many people talk to us about physical feelings that they experience whilst they are grieving especially in the early stages. We have lots of information which you can read here on our website: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/grieving-your-way
What support network do you have Laurie? Is there somebody you can talk to about your feelings. Some people prefer to talk to family or friends whilst others benefit from talking to a professional counsellor or a helpline such as ourselves.
If you would like to discuss things with us further please feel free to call our freephone support line on 0800 090 2309 or contact us by web chat.
Best Wishes
Brigette
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Lost my dad after a 4 year battle with cancer it’s so hard when your making decisions and watching them get tired and exhausted made me so sad x
My dad went to hospice 3days before he died I felt I let him down taking him there as he passed away on 25/10/2015
They have a great lot of staff and care and really great facilitates can say anything bad about hospice but was not familiar with them as it was to short a time and not a lot of communication at the time but wouldn’t say to anyone not to use hospice help just to quick from going in to passing away 
[quote]I lost my dad on the 25th October 2017 I feel so empty and lost he battled pancreatic cancer for 2 years how do you cope with the pain .[/quote]
It is a horrible time for you but believe me it will get better it’s so early just now your lost after everything that’s happened I have been there with my dad the time after is the worst I know but your dad would want you to carry on like any parent and fine your own way to cope I struggled for a long time I could say now 2 years on I am better than I was I hope you find some help with the pain of loosing him
Hi Mazey57,
Thank you for sharing your experience on the Community with us, I hope Laurie is able to take some comfort from this.
Please be aware that we are here to provide listening ear and emotional support if ever you need us.
Best Wishes
Brigette
Marie Curie Support Line
I lost my dad in August 2015 . I know what you mean about being lost. I miss his voice every day . I been finding it so hard I try to hide my emotions. I feel like im in a black hole . Any advice My dad had cancer but after 9 months he sadly passed away
Hi Rck1992
I am sorry to read about the death of your Dad. You described feeling like you are in a black hole; this feeling of emptiness and being lost are natural emotions which may be experienced. It is important to realize that grief is not something which can be fast tracked and there is no right or wrong time in which the process starts or finishes. It is a very individual process and no two people will experience it in the same way.
Sometimes sharing how you feel can help. Our information about getting support to do this may help - https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/bereavement-or-grief-counselling
If you would like to talk about things in more detail please call our Freephone Support Line on 0800 090 2309, or you can get in touch with us via Web chat: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/marie-curie-support-line
Best Wishes
Nikki
Support Line Officer