Hello everyone,
I’m not really sure what to write but I’m struggling to cope and don’t know what to do. My mum had a hysterectomy just over a year ago and caught the cancer incredibly early. She had chemo and radiotherapy and all was fine. Last friday she had a scan on a lump under her right rib and they’ve told us the cancer had not only returned but is inoperable. She has been offered more chemotherapy but been told the illness is now ’ ‘life limiting’. My world has crashed in around me and i don’t know how to cope. I feel so alone and scared.
Lizzy
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Hello Lizzy,
We are so sorry to hear about your mum’s life with cancer, and the recent diagnosis that it is ‘life limiting’ based on the scan of her lump. You and your mum have dealt with her cancer for more than a year now, and this new information was unexpected for you. It is understandable that you feel scared. Thank you so much for reaching out here, and for having the courage to look for connection when you are feeling alone.
I hope other readers of this thread will step forward and share their experiences with you. If you would like to talk to someone from Marie Curie on the phone and explore how Marie Curie can provide information for you and your mum and support you during this time, the Support Line is open 8am to 6pm Monday to Friday, and 10am to 4pm Saturday to Sunday, and can be called for free at this number: 0800 090 2309. They are also very kind and there to listen - sometimes a human voice at the other end of the phone can be very reassuring, in my experience.
Please also feel free to say more about your situation and thoughts in this Community. Having a loved one who has a cancer diagnosis can feel very isolating, but this forum is here for you.
Take care,
Anke
Hello Lizzie
My goodness it is no wonder your are devastated by this latest news with regard to Mum and the prognosis of her cancer now proving “life limiting” when she has already been through so much in her fight over the past year or so.
Like you, my dear Mum battled cancer for almost six years and we had thought that all her treatments would help save her life. When you receive the news that its not to be it is so hard to know where to turn or what to feel. Thankfully you have reached out to this forum where you can talk openly about how things are going and perhaps we can offer some reassurance and comfort that you are truly not alone. I hope that Mum`s care team can offer some form of support in this difficult time too and help to clarify what the plan is with regard to her care going forward. Knowledge is power and when you understand what the next steps are may help alleviate some of your fears. Please do let us know how things are going, and if we can help in any way we are right here. My colleague has advised our Support Line details above, so don`t hesitate to call if you feel the need to just hear a friendly voice. We are all thinking of you at this difficult time.
Yvonne1
I’m sorry to read this, Lizzie. I don’t have any advice, I’m going through it with my family too, but we’re not alone. I know it feels like it though.