How to help...Dad has late stage heart failure and COPD

  • Posts: 1
    17/02/2019  21:19

    My Dad has late stage heart failure and COPD. I don’t know how to help him or what he needs or what I should say to him.

    Can anyone offer any advice? What have you found helpful or useful in communicating? How can I make conversation when he struggles to speak and tired easily.

    Thanks for any help.

  • Posts: 14
    18/02/2019  14:26

    Hello StephenC,

     

    We’re sorry to read about your dad’s diagnosis. Supporting a loved one living with a terminal illness can be challenging. It’s not unusual to worry about what your loved one needs, what you can do to help, or what to say to them. We feature some information on our website about how friends and family can help, if you feel this would be beneficial you can read this here: https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/being-there/helping-someone-cope/family-friends-help


    It's understandable that you're wanting to help your dad and support him in an appropriate way. It can be natural for the person living with a terminal illness to experience both good and bad days, feelings may also fluctuate throughout the day. Hopefully others here on the community will share with you what they found helpful when supporting a loved one.


    You mention that your dad struggles to speak and gets tired easily. Many people living with a terminal illness tell us that just knowing that a loved one is there for them, when they need it can be invaluable and such a comfort to them. Family members often tell us that they feel as though they want to do more in these situations. Sometimes having an honest conversation with their loved one can help to know what support works best for them.


    You may or may not already be aware of The British Lung Foundation and The British Heart Foundation. They both feature information on their websites specifically around the illnesses your dad has, you can visit these websites here: https://www.blf.org.uk/support-for-you/copd and https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport .


    We hope you will find this information helpful.


    Take care,


    Bonnie - Marie Curie Support Line Team 

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