cancer took away my partner of 40 years now hard to remember who she was before

  • Posts: 3
    16/05/2016  09:04

    hi everyone 

    my name is chris and cancer took my nicky partner of 40 years last week after a 3 year battle.  i was at her side when she died cancer had reduced her to a wreck in the end and this is the only image that keeps popping into my head when i try to remember her. i am going to see my GP today to see if there is any way past this. i did get photos of her before to look at last night but this image keeps coming back of her at the end. can somebody tell me if the good memories do come back eventually as i need to have that hope that it does improve   

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    16/05/2016  15:12

    Hi Chris,


    I am sorry to read of the death of your partner Nicky. Grief can be very raw and emotional especially when her death was so recent. It is very normal to picture Nicky as she was at the end, especially since it has been such a short time. Grief is a natural response to losing someone you care about. There's no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone experiences it differently. The important thing is let yourself grieve and mourn as much and as long as you need to. Over time the recent memories will fade and it will become easier to remember the happy times. Being able to look at those pictures is a great way to help you remember those times. There is lots of information on our website about grief:

    Many people find it helpful to discuss their feelings and thoughts and if you want to talk things through you can always contact us at the Support Line on 0800 090 2309.