# Caring for someone **URL:** https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/c/caring-for-someone-1/14.md [Latest](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/latest.md) · [Categories](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/categories.md) --- ## [About the Caring for someone category](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/about-the-caring-for-someone-category/139)
**Author:** [@Admin](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Admin)\ **Replies:** 0
--- ## [Hospice at home](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/hospice-at-home/2197)
**Author:** [@pandabear](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/pandabear)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [22 July 2026 13:52 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/hospice-at-home/2197 "2026-07-22T13:52:29Z")
Looking for guidance about how to access hospice at home services for my very sick mum who is at end of life --- ## [Chemo no longer working.. Questions for oncologist](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/chemo-no-longer-working-questions-for-oncologist/2178)
**Author:** [@Dantanian](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Dantanian)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [2 July 2026 12:47 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/chemo-no-longer-working-questions-for-oncologist/2178 "2026-07-02T12:47:30Z")
Chemo no longer working.. Questions for oncologist Hi all. It’s been a, while. Close friend with 3 cancers now, major surgeries, dire mental health issues (in abeyance) has now been informed that the chemo is not worki… --- ## [Hello (again)](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/hello-again/2062)
**Author:** [@OneBrightStar](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/OneBrightStar)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [10 February 2026 08:43 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/hello-again/2062 "2026-02-10T08:43:38Z")
Hi All I’m not 100% sure but I think I posted here a couple of years ago while my Mum was near the end of her life - I can’t remember. She passed away not long after, but now I’m back again. Regarding my Son. J is 31… --- ## [Mum has gone, Dad stage 4 lung cancer](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/mum-has-gone-dad-stage-4-lung-cancer/1871)
**Author:** [@Tootsieone](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Tootsieone)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [24 September 2025 09:56 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/mum-has-gone-dad-stage-4-lung-cancer/1871 "2025-09-24T09:56:12Z")
My mum passed away 11/9/2025, 4 weeks prior to her passing from secondary breast cancer my Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. Mum had been in hospital and she wanted home so a care package was organised and home… --- ## [A message to carers](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/a-message-to-carers/1439)
**Author:** [@Khandarohi](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Khandarohi)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [20 July 2025 11:55 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/a-message-to-carers/1439 "2025-07-20T11:55:13Z")
This thread is messages from people with terminal cancer explaining what their carers did that was helpful & what wasnt. Please write your messages below I got diagnosed with cancer in my lymph nodes where it spreads to… --- ## [Mum is hanging on](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/mum-is-hanging-on/1854)
**Author:** [@Raphael3](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Raphael3)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [9 June 2025 11:02 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/mum-is-hanging-on/1854 "2025-06-09T11:02:11Z")
My mum was sent home from hospital 2 weeks ago to her own flat with me looking after her. We were told that her bladder cancer had spread to her lymph nodes with other complications and is incurable. She deteriorated ver… --- ## [Numb](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/numb/1379)
**Author:** [@Sue1965](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Sue1965)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [19 December 2024 15:50 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/numb/1379 "2024-12-19T15:50:35Z")
Just been to the hospital with my ex/now friend and been told he has terminal cancer been given month to live. Feel numb he’s the sort that holds everything in so can’t show any emotions in front of him. He has asked m… --- ## [Caring for my mom with Stage 4 Copd](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/caring-for-my-mom-with-stage-4-copd/1270)
**Author:** [@mrsc218](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/mrsc218)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [19 December 2024 11:01 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/caring-for-my-mom-with-stage-4-copd/1270 "2024-12-19T11:01:21Z")
My mom has now decided she would like to go into hospice care and withdrawal treatment and be at peace and die in no pain and be comfortable. Having been going threw this battle with my mom for years of her life does any… --- ## [Caring for terminally ill husband](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/caring-for-terminally-ill-husband/903)
**Author:** [@Drosie](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Drosie)\ **Replies:** 7\ **Last updated:** [17 December 2024 10:53 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/caring-for-terminally-ill-husband/903 "2024-12-17T10:53:52Z")
My husband is 52 and was diagnosed with aggressive prostrate cancer last year . We are now at the stage where we only have a short time left. I absolutely love my husband but it’s emotionally devastating me watching him … --- ## [MS](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/ms/856)
**Author:** [@Clairey](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Clairey)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [1 October 2024 14:54 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/ms/856 "2024-10-01T14:54:55Z")
Hi My name is Claire, I am 39. I, along with my sisters are caring for our mum who is at the end of life care with MS. It’s an awful illness. Seeing your loved one slowly disappear in front of your eyes. It’s not just th… --- ## [Husband - diagnosed with MND](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/husband-diagnosed-with-mnd/850)
**Author:** [@LouiseMarie](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/LouiseMarie)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [28 August 2024 09:08 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/husband-diagnosed-with-mnd/850 "2024-08-28T09:08:11Z")
We are devastated - after months of speculation my husband (41) has been given a diagnosis of motor neurone disease. We have two children (12 and 14). Not sure what to do or how to support my husband. What can we do in t… --- ## [Prognosis](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/prognosis/844)
**Author:** [@Jenster78](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Jenster78)\ **Replies:** 5\ **Last updated:** [28 July 2024 23:03 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/prognosis/844 "2024-07-28T23:03:42Z")
Mum has struggled to accept her prognosis and it’s affecting her mental health and quality of life (and our quality time with her) She has AML non curable and was offered management chemo for extra time. In December 23 a… --- ## [Sleeping](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/sleeping/842)
**Author:** [@MY2024](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/MY2024)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [17 June 2024 15:17 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/sleeping/842 "2024-06-17T15:17:14Z")
Hi, my dad has lung cancer. He’s in his 80’s and has had all the palliative radiotherapy possible. He’s gradually sleeping longer and longer in the night. He’s alert enough in the day but he’s recently started sleeping 1… --- ## [Deathbed marriage](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/deathbed-marriage/832)
**Author:** [@Grievingdd1945](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Grievingdd1945)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [3 June 2024 13:37 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/deathbed-marriage/832 "2024-06-03T13:37:25Z")
Hello, my Mum is in the final stages of life with lung cancer and brain mets. She has decided to marry her long term partner and is demanding that my sister and I ‘share her joy’. I am finding it exceptionally hard to do… --- ## [Appetite is lacking](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/appetite-is-lacking/831)
**Author:** [@TBisme](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/TBisme)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [29 May 2024 10:21 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/appetite-is-lacking/831 "2024-05-29T10:21:10Z")
Hello my sister,only sibling,rock has terminal secondary breast cancer. She has always been a slightly larger person and always had a good appetite for food. But recently she has completely lost it and is hardly eating a… --- ## [Mum palliative but no prognosis](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/mum-palliative-but-no-prognosis/794)
**Author:** [@Chloe](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Chloe)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [23 January 2024 18:58 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/mum-palliative-but-no-prognosis/794 "2024-01-23T18:58:26Z")
Hello, my mum has stage 4 cancer which has spread to the lungs and liver. She doesn’t have a prognosis, one consultant told me “a few months”… and a specialist nurse suggested 12 months. Mum doesn’t want to know at the m… --- ## [palliative care is so confusing](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/palliative-care-is-so-confusing/791)
**Author:** [@Vatb95](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Vatb95)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [15 January 2024 11:57 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/palliative-care-is-so-confusing/791 "2024-01-15T11:57:03Z")
My mum has recently been put on an end of life pathway for suspected bowel cancer. There is no way of ever knowing as she is far too unwell with a range of complex health conditions and chair bound.. to have the tests/bi… --- ## [Help and advice](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/help-and-advice/769)
**Author:** [@alison](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/alison)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [28 October 2023 16:05 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/help-and-advice/769 "2023-10-28T16:05:12Z")
Hello, I’m new here. My elderly mother has recently been diagnosed with an aggressive glioblastoma. She lives on her own and I live about 100 miles away and has always been fiercely independent; I’m staying with her four… --- ## [End of Life Care pathway](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/end-of-life-care-pathway/764)
**Author:** [@Nsims](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Nsims)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [23 October 2023 11:21 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/end-of-life-care-pathway/764 "2023-10-23T11:21:31Z")
Hi. Don’t know where to turn for advice information. My mother who has alzheimer’s (i think marie curie will help with all things?) and was put on pathway yesterday, and today the nursing home has already started a drug … --- ## [Help and advice](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/help-and-advice/758)
**Author:** [@Pet60](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Pet60)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [13 September 2023 15:46 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/help-and-advice/758 "2023-09-13T15:46:06Z")
Hi everyone, My husband has secondary cancer and the consultant has given him just under 2 years and that is being very optimistic. He is in hospital at the moment being treated for dehydration, the 3rd episode in as man… --- ## [Help and advice](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/help-and-advice/757)
**Author:** [@Pet60](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Pet60)\ **Replies:** 0\ **Last updated:** [12 September 2023 13:25 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/help-and-advice/757 "2023-09-12T13:25:53Z")
Hi everyone, My husband has secondary cancer and the consultant has given him just under 2 years and that is being very optimistic. He is in hospital at the moment being treated for dehydration, the 3rd episode in as man… --- ## [Wife has terminal cancer](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/wife-has-terminal-cancer/754)
**Author:** [@Pearsons66](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Pearsons66)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [6 September 2023 13:46 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/wife-has-terminal-cancer/754 "2023-09-06T13:46:28Z")
Hi, wife of 57 just been given weeks/months before end of life. Going through roller coaster of emotions. Sometimes I am ok, other times just crying. Bit of help needed --- ## [Newbie with double caring roles and my own young family . Not sure I can cope!](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/newbie-with-double-caring-roles-and-my-own-young-family-not-sure-i-can-cope/741)
**Author:** [@Hedgehog7](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Hedgehog7)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [25 July 2023 09:12 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/newbie-with-double-caring-roles-and-my-own-young-family-not-sure-i-can-cope/741 "2023-07-25T09:12:52Z")
Hi! I’m new here and felt like I need to reach out. I’m in a relationship and my partner and I have a young child. I also have a 14 year old. The demands of parenting a young child and a teenager are tricky but manageabl… --- ## [Caring for the family around the afflicted](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/caring-for-the-family-around-the-afflicted/745)
**Author:** [@tomnbrown](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/tomnbrown)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [6 June 2023 13:30 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/caring-for-the-family-around-the-afflicted/745 "2023-06-06T13:30:13Z")
Hi there, i’m new to this forum. My partner’s grandad has been diagnosed with MND a few months ago. Their family have come together to help care for him. Although I am an outsider to the family I still want to do my part… --- ## [Carer’s rights to work from home - any advice?](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/carer-s-rights-to-work-from-home-any-advice/748)
**Author:** [@JaneyF](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/JaneyF)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [5 June 2023 10:27 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/carer-s-rights-to-work-from-home-any-advice/748 "2023-06-05T10:27:35Z")
Does anyone know if the carer of someone with a terminal illness has the right to work from home? I am in this situation and have successfully worked from home since the first Lockdown. My employer wants to me to start c… --- ## [Unreasonable wishes for final months](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/unreasonable-wishes-for-final-months/746)
**Author:** [@oooo](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/oooo)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [29 May 2023 12:54 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/unreasonable-wishes-for-final-months/746 "2023-05-29T12:54:13Z")
Father currently in hospital with cancer spreading and has been given a couple of months to live. He’s asked to be taken out of hospital as soon as he’s stabilised, but he’s adamant that he does not want to go home. He’s… --- ## [Clinging on to hope](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/clinging-on-to-hope/723)
**Author:** [@Hope](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Hope)\ **Replies:** 4\ **Last updated:** [20 April 2023 09:21 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/clinging-on-to-hope/723 "2023-04-20T09:21:05Z")
Hi new to the group and thought I should reach out to more like minded people that might understand. I’m 24 and I live with my mum who has been battling an aggressive rare cancer for 2 years now. Since I am the only one … --- ## [My Dad is End of Life as of a few days ago](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/my-dad-is-end-of-life-as-of-a-few-days-ago/737)
**Author:** [@GazCBG](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/GazCBG)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [14 March 2023 16:15 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/my-dad-is-end-of-life-as-of-a-few-days-ago/737 "2023-03-14T16:15:54Z")
Hi, New members here. Here what going on My Mum died at the begin of Jan 2023, she was 75 years old and we had the funeral at the begin of Feb 2023. Which left me and my dad which at the time he was 75 years old, he n… --- ## [Pain relief at home](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/pain-relief-at-home/722)
**Author:** [@Diddums](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/u/Diddums)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [16 September 2022 11:04 UTC](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/t/pain-relief-at-home/722 "2022-09-16T11:04:23Z")
My mum is getting palliative care at hospital (in a pre surgical ward) and the plan is to transfer her home . The doctor thought that i would not be allowed to give her the morphine she is on at home for legal reasons. S… [Next page](https://community.mariecurie.org.uk/c/caring-for-someone-1/14.md?page=1)